What is Runanubandha & How to Break out of it?

Many times, we’re deceived, betrayed, and left alone for reasons and causes that are out of our control. This moment, you may have a strong connection and bond with someone, and then the next moment it either breaks or just stops existing for some reason. Could be caused by clashing egos, or it could be something more grave, like a third party’s involvement.

Either way, the runanubandha made between individuals could bring excruciating pain on both sides, and the suffering and unsettled emotions could easily affect both individuals personally and professionally.

What is Runanubandha?

It’s a soul-connection (bond) either made between two individuals that have been close physically, emotionally or spiritually, or it could also be a karmic bond among blood relationships.

Physical connection/interactions can spur up deeper (emotional) runanubandha. And likewise, emotional involvement can further spur the two individuals into yet, an even deeper connection which is spiritual in nature.

The greater the depth of runanubandha, the more difficult it is to break. And if, for some reason a deep connection doesn’t find expression or manifest in the real world, that form of energy simply loses it’s purpose. This brings incredible suffering to both the individuals because it’s equivalent to death. From the breakage of such a profound connection, suicidal thoughts, depression and resentment is only natural.

Could there possibly be a way out of this misery, or is your life pretty much over? Let’s answer that question.

Is there a way out?

There is no possible way to break runanubadha directly, but you can dissolve it through yog-siddhi. Now, this may not be possible for everyone. So, the answer is, for some, it is possible to break free (through a state called samyama), for others, it may require outside intervention (through a process called shambhavi).

Samyama (acquired through self-effort)

A state of mind which is acquired through incredible austerities, once attained to, can dissolve your runanubandha and everything else that defines who you are. This is achieved when a yogi becomes established in Dharana, Dhyana, and Samadhi.

Dharana: A process where you focus your mind on one thing and keep it still.

Dhyana: A process where your single pointed focus becomes absolutely still, and your mind starts getting poured into that point of focus like oil pouring into a vessel.

Samadhi: Where you are no more, and only the point of focus remains.

When all of these three states come together, you’ve tapped into what’s called Samyama. Everyone’s body reacts to this state differently, some people wave their heads like madmen, some start behaving like gorillas, some snakes, earthworms, you name it!

You can attain this state through yoga: Samyukti: A beginner’s guide to Yoga (Will soon attach the link)

Shambhavi (acquired through grace)

This is not performed, and you don’t have to do anything. It’s received either when you enter a sacred space, or personally receive it as grace from someone.

Here, you don’t have to do anything, your runanubandha will simply start dissolving on its own as you stay in the sacred space. Although, a level of receptivity would definitely enhance your ability to receive that grace and hasten the disentanglement process.

This is an easier method, but the adverse effects of your runanubandha do go to the person who initiated you into Shambhavi to some extent.

As of now, I don’t offer workshops — maybe in the future.

Can time heal as well?

Yes, it can to some extent. As the impression of your runanubandha begin to wither away, it’ll naturally become less and less painful over time. But no, there will still remain a fragment, an unresolved seed, which will not just linger through this lifetime, but will carry on throughout lifetimes if not dealt with.

If your emotions remain unresolved, they may manifest in your next life, and the life you become after that. You’ll keep meeting the same person or person with similar qualities throughout lifetimes, unconsciously, trying to resolve the matters that weren’t resolved.

If either one of the person adopts one of the above 2 methods, the runanubandha between both individuals will loosen up and dissolve.

If not for yourself, you can do it for the other. Killing yourself only delays your misery, so practically it’s not the best course of action. If you’re going through something like this and thinking of un-aliving yourself, stay strong. You’re stronger than you think. You’ve got this!

Best wishes.